My older brother emailed my work and other agencies that were lies. The emails went to the general inbox. What can I do to prevent this?
In Guam
Last Updated:
Jan 23, 2026
My older brother and I got into an argument right before my mom passed away in 2022. My mom had asked me to lend him my car since I was off for the summer and he somehow broke her car, which he was using. I found out he was going to the home of a drug dealer. I told my mom that I was going to take my car back because he has, in the past, wrecked every vehicle he acquired from my parents. He was so angry, he yelled at my bedridden parents before hitting me. After that, every chance he got, he would yell at me, call me names (specifically “whore”, and call my children losers.
After my mom passed, he took in the 4 children of our nephew who ended up in jail. Without asking, he brought them home. I found out when I went to the house and found them there. My dad did not know who they were. My brother, on a Sunday, left them to “go to work”. I got there at 4:30 p.m. I told my nephew to call my brother (he was ignoring our calls) and tell him to come home or I will call CPS on him for just dumping them on my 84-year-old father.
He was mad. He then wrote 2 separate emails to my work making up lies about me and telling them I should not be around kids (I teach).
We called a truce after a couple of years. But, then just recently we argued again because he misread a message from me. I am tired of this. He has told lies to members of our church (I do not want to go to church anymore) and he told lies about me to members of our family during a Thanksgiving gathering.
What can I do to stop this? My dad got mad at him, but he does not listen at all. Oh yeah…he will be 61 in March 2026 and lives with my dad and the 4 nieces and nephews. I will be 60 in July 2026 and lives with my elsewhere.
Please help. I cannot deal with him anymore. I do not know if I need to take this to court or let it go. He already hit me once and attempted to hit me again but pulled back when I told him I will charge him with assault this time.
After my mom passed, he took in the 4 children of our nephew who ended up in jail. Without asking, he brought them home. I found out when I went to the house and found them there. My dad did not know who they were. My brother, on a Sunday, left them to “go to work”. I got there at 4:30 p.m. I told my nephew to call my brother (he was ignoring our calls) and tell him to come home or I will call CPS on him for just dumping them on my 84-year-old father.
He was mad. He then wrote 2 separate emails to my work making up lies about me and telling them I should not be around kids (I teach).
We called a truce after a couple of years. But, then just recently we argued again because he misread a message from me. I am tired of this. He has told lies to members of our church (I do not want to go to church anymore) and he told lies about me to members of our family during a Thanksgiving gathering.
What can I do to stop this? My dad got mad at him, but he does not listen at all. Oh yeah…he will be 61 in March 2026 and lives with my dad and the 4 nieces and nephews. I will be 60 in July 2026 and lives with my elsewhere.
Please help. I cannot deal with him anymore. I do not know if I need to take this to court or let it go. He already hit me once and attempted to hit me again but pulled back when I told him I will charge him with assault this time.
Lawyer Answers
Ascendance International Consulting (A-I-C)
Jan 24, 2026
Jan 24, 2026
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your difficult situation. It's clear that you're in an emotionally and mentally taxing environment, and you deserve to feel safe and respected, especially in your own family. When it comes to your brother's behavior, there are a few legal options you could consider:
Order of Protection (Restraining Order): Given that your brother has physically assaulted you before and has continued to harass you emotionally and verbally, you might want to look into obtaining an order of protection or a restraining order. This legal step can provide a boundary and prevent him from contacting you or engaging in any further threats or violence. You can request one through your local court system. In your case, it could also help with establishing boundaries around your relationship, especially if you are worried about further physical confrontation.
Family Mediation: You mentioned a truce, but given the repeated conflicts, it may be beneficial to involve a neutral third party, such as a mediator or counselor, to help facilitate a healthier way to communicate and resolve disputes. This might be more effective if both parties are open to it, but it sounds like you’ve already tried various ways to bridge the gap.
Defamation or Slander: If the lies your brother has been telling to your church, family, and work have resulted in real harm to your reputation or livelihood, you might be able to take legal action for defamation or slander. This route can be more complex, and it would be best to consult with a lawyer who specializes in family law or defamation to explore this possibility.
Child Protective Services (CPS): Given the concerns you’ve raised about your brother’s treatment of the children, it might be worth reporting to CPS if you believe the kids are at risk. While it's a difficult decision to take this step, your concern for their welfare could be an important factor in ensuring they are safe and cared for properly.
Ultimately, you don’t have to continue to tolerate abuse or harassment from anyone, including family members. If the situation is seriously affecting your well-being or safety, consulting with us may be the best next step and can help you explore specific options for taking legal action, whether it’s for an order of protection, defamation, or another course of action.
I hope you find a path forward that provides you with the peace and safety you deserve. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Ascendance International Consulting
Order of Protection (Restraining Order): Given that your brother has physically assaulted you before and has continued to harass you emotionally and verbally, you might want to look into obtaining an order of protection or a restraining order. This legal step can provide a boundary and prevent him from contacting you or engaging in any further threats or violence. You can request one through your local court system. In your case, it could also help with establishing boundaries around your relationship, especially if you are worried about further physical confrontation.
Family Mediation: You mentioned a truce, but given the repeated conflicts, it may be beneficial to involve a neutral third party, such as a mediator or counselor, to help facilitate a healthier way to communicate and resolve disputes. This might be more effective if both parties are open to it, but it sounds like you’ve already tried various ways to bridge the gap.
Defamation or Slander: If the lies your brother has been telling to your church, family, and work have resulted in real harm to your reputation or livelihood, you might be able to take legal action for defamation or slander. This route can be more complex, and it would be best to consult with a lawyer who specializes in family law or defamation to explore this possibility.
Child Protective Services (CPS): Given the concerns you’ve raised about your brother’s treatment of the children, it might be worth reporting to CPS if you believe the kids are at risk. While it's a difficult decision to take this step, your concern for their welfare could be an important factor in ensuring they are safe and cared for properly.
Ultimately, you don’t have to continue to tolerate abuse or harassment from anyone, including family members. If the situation is seriously affecting your well-being or safety, consulting with us may be the best next step and can help you explore specific options for taking legal action, whether it’s for an order of protection, defamation, or another course of action.
I hope you find a path forward that provides you with the peace and safety you deserve. Please take care of yourself during this difficult time.
Sincerely,
Ascendance International Consulting
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