The following issues have led me to this conclusion:
Financial Instability and Debt: The ongoing lack of financial support and the fact that his entire income is consumed by loans has left the full burden of our family’s needs on my brother.
Breach of Trust: The repeated lying and lack of transparency have made it impossible for me to feel secure or trust him as a partner.
Parental Responsibilities: I have felt consistently unsupported in caring for our son, particularly during the night. Furthermore, his choice to focus on his phone or gaming instead of watching our son while I try to search for work has made it impossible for me to move forward with my career.
I need to focus my energy on providing a stable, honest, and supportive environment for our son. Because I am actively looking for work-from-home opportunities to ensure our future, I can no longer manage the added stress of this relationship.
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Recososa Law Firm
Recososa Law Firm
Firstly, if you are married, your situation may fall under psychological violence or economic abuse under Republic Act 9262, the Violence Against Women and Their Children Act. Economic abuse includes situations where the husband does not provide financial support, or his income is diverted to debts and loans leaving the family unsupported. Psychological violence includes emotional neglect, lying, and behavior that causes mental or emotional suffering to the wife. Even neglect of parental duties that causes you distress can be included.
Secondly, you may also consider filing for legal separation if the situation is already unbearable. Legal separation does not dissolve the marriage, but it allows separation of property, living separately, and custody arrangements. If the behavior involves habitual neglect, irresponsibility, and failure to perform marital obligations, that can support a legal separation case.
Thirdly, regardless of whether you separate or not, the father is legally obligated to support the child. Under the Family Code, support includes food, education, medical needs, and basic living expenses. Even if you are not living together anymore, you can file a Petition for Support so the court will order him to give monthly financial support. This is very important because support is a legal obligation, not optional.
Fourthly, for custody, generally children below 7 years old are under the custody of the mother, unless the mother is unfit. So if you separate, custody will usually be with you, and the father will just have visitation rights, and he will still be required to give support.
So legally, your possible remedies are:
a) File a VAWC case for psychological and economic abuse,
b) File a Petition for Support for the child,
c) File for Legal Separation if you want formal separation,
d) Arrange custody and visitation legally to protect you and your child.
What you wrote is actually a good foundation statement because it shows financial neglect, emotional distress, and parental irresponsibility, which are relevant in VAWC and support cases.
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