Is father in contempt? What can I do?

Thank you for explaining your situation. Once a divorce and parenting plan are finalized, both parents are legally required to follow the terms of that order, regardless of changes in the personal relationship or living arrangements. If the parenting plan states that the receiving parent is responsible for pickup at 9:00 a.m. and does not specify a different exchange location, then unilaterally changing the pickup location or refusing reasonable exchanges may be viewed as noncompliance. Similarly, while extracurricular activities are sometimes discretionary, if the activity was agreed upon during the marriage or is part of the child’s established routine, refusal to cooperate may raise concerns depending on how joint decision-making is defined in your order.

Using transportation or access to your daughter as leverage because you no longer reside in his home is not appropriate and may be relevant if court intervention becomes necessary. I strongly recommend documenting all communications, missed exchanges, and refusals to cooperate, and reviewing your parenting plan carefully for language regarding transportation, exchanges, and extracurricular activities. If the behavior continues, you may wish to consult a family law attorney or seek court clarification or enforcement, as courts prioritize stability and the child’s best interests over parental conflict.

Sincerely,

Ascendance International Consulting