Divorce was finalized a week ago. Was staying at ex husband’s house so I could be with our daughter on his days too. The day it was finalized he decided to get drunk, call me names and tell me to leave his house. Now father says he will not drop daughter off to her co-op class on his Fridays because its extracurricular and he doesn’t have to. He also states I cannot pick our daughter up from his house and I need to drive 70 miles to get our daughter from his work. Our parenting plan is 50/50 joint decision making. The parenting plan says receiving parent is responsible for pickup at 9am. He is now doing this because I left the house. I have only picked her up once since this and it was at his house. During the court process it was at the police station but then I dropped the protection order because our daughter was hospitalized and he said if I dropped it I could come back to his house so I can be with our daughter.
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Ascendance International Consulting (A-I-C)
Jan 20, 2026
Jan 20, 2026
Thank you for explaining your situation. Once a divorce and parenting plan are finalized, both parents are legally required to follow the terms of that order, regardless of changes in the personal relationship or living arrangements. If the parenting plan states that the receiving parent is responsible for pickup at 9:00 a.m. and does not specify a different exchange location, then unilaterally changing the pickup location or refusing reasonable exchanges may be viewed as noncompliance. Similarly, while extracurricular activities are sometimes discretionary, if the activity was agreed upon during the marriage or is part of the child’s established routine, refusal to cooperate may raise concerns depending on how joint decision-making is defined in your order.
Using transportation or access to your daughter as leverage because you no longer reside in his home is not appropriate and may be relevant if court intervention becomes necessary. I strongly recommend documenting all communications, missed exchanges, and refusals to cooperate, and reviewing your parenting plan carefully for language regarding transportation, exchanges, and extracurricular activities. If the behavior continues, you may wish to consult a family law attorney or seek court clarification or enforcement, as courts prioritize stability and the child’s best interests over parental conflict.
Sincerely,
Ascendance International Consulting
Using transportation or access to your daughter as leverage because you no longer reside in his home is not appropriate and may be relevant if court intervention becomes necessary. I strongly recommend documenting all communications, missed exchanges, and refusals to cooperate, and reviewing your parenting plan carefully for language regarding transportation, exchanges, and extracurricular activities. If the behavior continues, you may wish to consult a family law attorney or seek court clarification or enforcement, as courts prioritize stability and the child’s best interests over parental conflict.
Sincerely,
Ascendance International Consulting
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